Most of us are somewhat confused about love.
We yearn for love, and we need love. But what does healthy love look like? And how can we create it?
Our confusion leads to all sorts of unconscious and irrational behavior, uncomfortable feelings, and reactivity in our relationships. It can impact our ability to make or keep commitments.
When you feel neglected by your partner, it’s often because someone is unaware or suppressing one or more essential human needs.
All people share the same basic human needs. Sometimes they are simple and easily fulfilled. At other times, they are complex and nuanced – and they take more time and skill to satisfy.
All human beings have similar core needs, whether we’re infants or adults. Some of the most important needs include care and attention from another person, the feeling of being deeply connected, and being a priority to someone else. The great gift of being in relationship is having these needs fulfilled.
But many people are frustrated in their romantic relationship because they aren’t getting these basic needs met, and they don’t know what to do to change the situation.
We thrive most in relationships when we feel appreciated, accepted, and connected. When we feel rejected or devalued, we’re likely to feel hurt, sad or ashamed.
Research shows that people in healthy long-term relationships live longer, happier lives.
